This might be a sign that theyre in love with you. 2. "It is displayed in adults through poor coping skills, a lack of coping strategies, erratic behavior, and difficulty dealing with issues in relationships and in real-life problems," therapistChamin Ajjan, M.S., LCSW, A-CBT, previously told mbg of this disorganized attachment style. Well, it is for most of us, but not for an avoidant. A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. As Rud explains in this mind blowing free video, love is not what many of us think it is. You know your partner and I don't, but I can share some insights and patterns I've seen and experienced to give you some more information about how this situation typically looks. My goal is to decipher the most confusing concepts so that anyone who is interested in living a better and fulfilled life can apply them. Inviting you to this hallowed ground means youll get a sneak peak of how they live their daily life and they are permitting you to know them on a more personal level. In fact, they fear they might lose their independence and even their identity if they get too attached to someone. Your love wouldn't need a grand Saturday evening declaring the passion of your yearning hearts. As per psychology, love avoidants are people or individuals who fear intimacy and affectionate gestures, despite being in love. How so? When avoidant partners are in the company of anxious love seekers and highly accomplished women, they may worry that they will disappoint you, so they always feel that they have to be on guard. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, a Masters in Nutrition and Integrative Health, and a Masters in Special Education, and is trained in numerous specialty areas. The non-verbal gestures are the very first things they will attempt before they can be vocal about their feelings. My online, self-paced course Healing Anxious Attachment is available now! The fearful-avoidant attachment style is characterized by a fear of rejection, abandonment and low self-confidence, which are themes that do not have a quick and easy fix. //